Craigslist offers a long list of classified ads; from jobs, furniture and housing, to services, personals and sex. The sex section seems to be the most crowded area and may be because of the idea of hooking up with a total stranger in a casual encounter fuels the excitement.
Here are a few dos and don’ts to make your search easier and safer, too. Although the idea of having no-ties sex with a stranger may be titillating, you don’t want to risk your health – or worse yet, your life.
Hooking up online is never easy, but there are ways to make it work, as long as you understand the rules. Here are several tips to make your experience a safer, more successful one:
Women, unlike men, can easily get casual encounters without going online. So, why are they on Craigslist?
Mainly because most of the women in the casual encounter section want to get laid to get paid, and this is what turns straight men off.
While there may be men who are generous enough for women who only expect dinner and a few drinks, still these men get turned down, because let’s face it, women, even the not-so-good-looking ones are choosy when it comes to looks.
If you want to have great sex, then you most likely want to find someone attractive enough to rouse your sexual desire.
Every person’s preference of beauty differs, but at least you should find someone familiar with the word,“hygiene.”
The thing is, you don’t know until you have met them. Take thetime to choose someone, and do it carefully. Don’t expect to find someone perfect right away, because that is not how online hooking up works.
The casual encounter section is so full of shorthand terms and abbreviations, so if you want to go with the flow, then it is best familiarize yourself with the Craigslist lingo.
Here are few of the most essentials:
Now, you know what abbreviations to use in your post and what to look out for on other posts. However, the abbreviation lesson does not end here. You might want to avoid posts with PNP listings, because PNP means Party N Play, where you have sex while high on drugs. Well, unless you are one of these peeps, you might as well keep looking.
Other terms related to PNP are “420 friendly” which refer to pot stoners, “Tina,” refers to meth, and if you notice random capitalized letter “Ts” on a post, this means the person is looking to get high.
The next Craigslist lingo lesson is especially for straight men. Beware of women looking for “generous” or “gen” men, as it only means one thing, money for sex. “Roses” for dollars, and the $ sign placed over letter S also represent the same thing.
You certainly don’t want to be lied to, so you try to be as honest as you can on your ad post. Certainly, there is nothing wrong about that, but if there’s one thing you can lie about on Craigslist, it would be your age.
However, you should adjust it according to how old you truly look. It would be ridiculous to say you’re 30, yet you look much older. Let’s say you are 40, yet you look much younger, you could put 35 on your ad.
It wouldn’t hurt,except if you end up in a serious relationship. You don’t want to base it on lies, do you? The only time you should never lie about your age is when you are a minor trying to sneak past Craigslist rules.
Expect no-shows during meet ups,because it happens a lot. It’s either because the person has no intention of showing up, or they got freaked out with the idea of hooking up with a total stranger.
Most of these people won’t even take the time to even email or message you to say they won’t make it, or they are sorry. This happens a lot with Craigslist, so be prepared.
Don’t take rejections personally. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; so no matter how good-looking you are, you are not going to be everyone’s type of guy.
If you receive a reply saying you aren’t his or her match, or you have not received any reply at all after sending a photo, then most likely that the person is not interested. Just accept it and move on.
Don’t let the rejection bother you. Surely, you aren’t one of those mean-spirited people who get back with nasty remarks. If someone who is not your type answers your ads, be polite in saying no to them. You don’t have to hurt their feelings. The Golden Rule still applies on Craigslist.
If you have a so-so face with a so-so body, then it is far better to find someone who is more your match. Most likely, super-hot people only want to screw super-hot people.
But if you’re lucky and someone hot answers your ad, take a chance, but beware of extremely good-looking people in Craigslist. Most likely, it’s a stolen photo from another website.
Another hint, as much as possible avoid meeting up with people who can’t provide face pics. You are most likely to regret your decision if you do. If they claim to be good-looking, yet can’t send you a picture of themselves when you ask, then they are obviously lying to you.
As a kid, your parents probably always warned you about not talking to strangers, but on Craigslist, delving into the unknown is part of the thrill.
Still, you should be extra cautious about who you are hooking up with, just as you would in a crowded bar.
They could be a serial killer or a human trafficker. As you exchange messages, try to get a gut feeling for the situation. For example, refusing to answer simple questions could be a bad sign.
You should ask the person if you could talk with them on the phone, even for just a bit. Joke around and if the response seems to be a bit off, then don’t think twice of not meeting up. Most importantly, avoid meeting in dark or isolated places.
Lastly, enjoy your search and expect scammers, fakes and spammers along the way, but don’t let these things throw you off. Don’t talk to people who ask for money in any way.
As you go on, you will learn a lot of things and eventually you will meet someone. The next meetups will be easier, and most importantly, safer for you both.
On Craigslist, you will never know what’s in store for you, until the meet up happens. Expect less, be polite and stay safe by following these tips.